Court...

Well I am still married...

The judge would not grant the divorce with the visitation set up the way Dave wanted it. He wanted it to say that visitation would just be agreed upon between us. The judge said there has to be some sort of mandated visitation schedule. We don't have to follow it and can add days to it as we see fit. So my lawyer is drafting up the papers again to change the visitation to what we originally had that Dave wouldn't agree to.

Dave told the judge again that he had a problem with not allowing our son around a boyfriend or girlfriend until said person was in a continuous relationship with them for at least 6 months. Dave stated that if he got a girlfriend and moved in with her in say 3 months would that stop his visitation. The judge said it wouldn't per say stop the visitations, but it would stop the overnight visits. So now it is just no overnights with the new significant other for at least they are together for 6 straight months.

The judge wouldn't grant the first right of refusal either. Which is where if either Dave or I couldn't watch Carter during our period of time with him that we would first have to contact the other parent before we found alternative care. The judge said only if it is going to be longer them 48 hours.

So now we are just waiting on my lawyer to draft up the new papers and mail them to Dave to sign, and them mail them to me to sign before she can resubmit them to the court.