Carter's visit with his Dad

So I let Dave take Carter for a little bit on Saturday. I told him he could pick him up around 12. Carter was so excited he wouldn't even go play outside with his friends cause his Dad was coming. So 12 comes and goes.... finally about 1 Dave calls and says he is on his way and will call when he gets on North Cotton Hill Road. He asks to borrow my car seat again and I let him use it and they are gone.

While Carter was gone I went out and bought him 2 beta fish!! They were talking about pets at school and he was sad cause he missed our dog that Dave had kept after we separated and then ended up giving away. So Carter was wanting a pet and I wasn't going to get him a dog or anything like that.... so fish it is!! Plus it was something for me to do while he was gone so I wasn't home crying cause I was worried and missing him.

Anyways... Dave called at 5:15 and wanted to know if I wanted Carter back now I could come and get him, or else if I wanted him to bring him home it would be around 7:30 or so. I said that he could spend some more time with him and 7:30 was fine. He calls again at 6:44 and says "we" are on our way to bring Carter back. Dave again calls me when he is on North Cotton Hill Road so I can be outside waiting for him... don't know why that is... is he afraid to come to the door?? Carter gets out of the car and is walking up towards the house before I make it outside. Carter tells me to come here he wants me to meet Curtis (Dave's girlfriends 10 yr old son) so I walk down the driveway a bit and waved and said hi. Dave was said what are you doing... I said Carter wanted me to meet Curtis. Dave's girlfriend was driving and Curtis was in the seat behind her so I couldn't see either one of them that well as they had just parked in the street and the drivers side was the furthest away.

Once Carter got inside all I asked him was if he had fun. Carter said yeah Curtis and I played outside and played guns. He also said he saw and old grandma. I asked him then if he went to Jacksonville to see Dave's mom of Dave's grandma that is in a nursing home. He said never mind.... I'm not suppose to tell you. So I dropped it.

On Sunday I had to work at Lifestar for a few hours and mom was doing an open house for dad so April was going to watch Carter for a bit. Carter told April that Curtis had told him that his sister was chasing him and he ran into the bathroom to hide and locked the door and tried to call his mom and she wouldn't answer the phone.... then he ran out of the bathroom and into the kitchen and grabbed a knife and chased his sister with it. April told me about that and I debated on asking Carter anything about it and then decided I better cause if something happened to him over at his Dads and I didn't pursue this I would never forgive myself. So I asked Carter and he said that Curtis told him about it and it didn't happen while he was there. So I was a bit relieved, but still concerned about this 10 yr old chasing someone with a knife. So Dave called on Monday and I debated on saying anything to him cause I knew he would get pissed and deny anything like that would happen. But, I decided again that I couldn't forgive myself if I didn't say anything and something were to happen to my baby. So as I was trying to tell the story to Dave before I could even finish he was cutting me off telling me that it didn't happen. I told him to let me finish and that Carter said it didn't happen while he was there, but that it happened a different time. Dave still said that it didn't happen and wouldn't have happened in a condescending voice. I was so mad I just hung up on him. I don't need to listen to him talk to me that way and I was pissed that he believed this 10 yr old child he knew for only 1 week over his own son.

I haven't really heard from him since then... he did text me on Wednesday and asked me what I still had of his besides his real father's Bible and his grandma's picture. I told him I didn't know and I would go look later. I wasn't going to drop what I was doing to go look, but I did later and all I have of his is a laundry basket full of baseball pictures and some pictures of the kids. He had given me all this stuff the last time he left Lisa and moved out before he started truck driving. Pretty sad to think that when he moved in with me in 1999 all he had was a milk crate full of stuff and when we separated and divorced he had a house full of stuff he took. He took a couch, queen size bed, two TV's, DVD player, vcr player, laptop, tons of dishes and kitchen stuff, and a lot more too. Now he is moving in with this girl and all he has is a small laundry basket of stuff and his clothes.


Okay this is an addition....

I posted this original blog around 9 am.... well now it is almost 2pm and I have some news that will blow you away. Are you ready??

3 weeks ago Dave picked a girl named Susie who was the one he decided to exclusivley pursue. On March 12th he came to Spfld for the weekend with his training partner on the big rig truck. He met up again with Angie with one of the girls he met online... well they got married on St. Patrick's Day. Yeah you read that right. They got $**$&#*%& married. So much for picking Susie three weeks ago to be the one.... OMG